Hello everyone, I’ve trust you have all been well…
Mmm… I wonder if there would be less social judgement, better self-esteem, and less-what the media portrays as “Scandals” if people didn’t feel the need to constantly post about their lives. Would the world be a better place if people kept certain aspects of their daily lives to themselves? versus the need to get social approval for trying to be “an individual”. I honestly I believe most people don’t care about what goes on around them (such as what other people are doing) unless they have a personal connection to the situation- something they can honestly relate to (do you really care what you neighbor ate for dinner last night, or that some long distance cousin that you didn’t know existed ended up with an inheritance while you’re still knee deep in debt?) . Or unless the media is shoving it down our throats, to the point where it’s everywhere now you have to have an opinion. For example “Kylie Jenner” till this day, I still don’t know why she’s famous, I get her sister is a model I understand her fame, but not Kylie’s – besides dating Tyga and wearing really revealing clothes while having an uncomfortable look on her face; still don’t know why she’s famous. Don’t know why she’s in the news or why she’s constantly on my news feed.
Another example would be that question in Oprah “Can I pull off a crop top” and the answer was basically, if you have a nice toned body then yeah, but if you don’t it’s not going to look right. Next there was a media “outrage” -I still want to see who are all these people who are always politically correct and always outraged about something. I personally didn’t think it was body shamming at all, it’s a fact; you will either look good in something or you won’t. Naturally it’s ones constitutional right freedom of choice to wear something that’s unflattering to themselves, however you cannot expect everyone to fall over themselves and tell you that you look great if you don’t- plus, fashion is subjective- what looks good on one person might not on another. I do believe in the whole “if you have nothing nice to say, PLEASE keep it to yourself.” However, if you go out of your way to bother someone to ask them what they think about, when it comes to your outfit or what you’re doing…(we’ve all seen through various media site of people going out of they’re way to be judged, then you have to open to the fact that not everyone is going to give you constructive criticism, there is always that possibility for negative feedback). More so, because we have this technological medium between people; it allows others to hide behind this medium as mask to say some pretty vicious f-ed-off-the-wall things. That has nothing to do with the topic on hand. Some people are really messed up in the head, they’re just filled up with anger, hurt, low self-esteem, misery and most importantly boredom. And instead of finding something constructive to do to better their lives, they spend their times going on random sites writing really harsh off the wall comments about people they don’t know. I’m sure you’ve all read that one comment that responds to such behavior by saying something along the lines of “If you don’t like what you see, why did you finish watching the whole video? why take time out of your “busy” life to write a meaningless comment on how horrible x,y, and z is, when you simply could have clicked out of the window!”
Here’s my interpretation of what each media site is about:
– Instagram aka “tell me I’m beautiful” /”tell me I have an awesome life” / ” bet you wish you could be me, you’re so jelly!”
Twitter aka “I only need 140 characters to say profound things that will blow your mind!” #Ijustblewyourmind #Imonawholeotherlevel “Have I won you over with my witty sense of humor?”
Facebook aka “We’re supposedly friends, but I only acknowledge you on your birthday” / “I’m comparing my life to your life, by keeping up with your life from a distance.” / “I will like some of your pictures, I will give you the occasional comment on a post but I still don’t want hang out with you in public or instant message you.” “because we’re all friends here, I’m going to argue with my significant other all over your news feed, because if we have issues in our relationship EVERYONE SHOULD KNOW.” Let’s be honest, we all have that one person (s) on our “buddy” list that we just don’t talk to, hell, you may even be wondering how did this person end up on my list, why are we even friends. Real talk, I have two people on my friend list, I have no idea who they are, I have literally never seen them in real life, talked to them, besides what they decide to post I honestly don’t know these people. I don’t know how we ended up being friends. I’ll read their status’s and view some of their pictures and I’ll think two things;
- I am so happy for you, i’m glad to see that you’re doing well!
- I still have no idea who you are.
Tumblr aka “the site where you reblog pictures of people- you will never meet, places-you most likely will never visit but really want too, and things- you would like to try in theory but unless you are out of your natural habitat you most likely won’t.” It’s a place where you can reblog quotes to make yourself sound “deep and profound” but you are probably not but rather you want to come across as versatile.
*An no it’s not me taking personal digs at these media’s site because I actually use them as well, except for Instagram; I could never get behind the obsession of taking a selfie and using the whole “check out my selfie, no filter” -when we all know you either have your makeup on point, or you are in fact using a filter.
I have to say I like my tumblr and wordpress the most, Tumblr is life I wish I could have where as WordPress is more authentic in the sense I get to express my inner thoughts about things that are going on around me right now.
And in other news, I did get my weave, 14 inches, I look good with long hair, I made sure to get hair that’s really similar to mine in terms of texture and weight, sleeping with long hair is different, it just wraps all around all over the place, I finally have bangs for the first time in twenty years, it’s annoying having the hair in my face, i’m constantly shaking my head or parting it, and it sometimes gets in the way when i’m trying eat (they’re longer on the side) I’m just shedding hair like you wouldn’t believe. Now I have had roommates, girls with long hair, never understood why they would leave trails of hair everywhere, Now I can see I see that the struggle is real, little strands get left everywhere! /My hair is the same length as Niki’s in the picture just straight.
Also I did write another short story (my first one in over a year) one of these days I need to combine all my short stories and publish it and make it book. Which then lead me to the question (okay you’re rich now, where do you want live before you go trekking off to see the world? ) So I started looking at lofts in San Francisco, needless to say I came across this one loft I just LOVED. It looked like a total bachelor’s pad. What won me over was the awesome view. The fireplace and the gourmet kitchen (if you don’t know, I love to throw down in the kitchen, mama likes to cook!). I never thought I would like a place that has navy blue walls with white trimming and metal. But there is one wall that has a window from the ceiling to the floor facing the sun, that gives off such natural lighting that it lights up the house- so it doesn’t look dark and gloomy. (although according to my mom “its too dark, too masculine and whose gonna live there…you?! no no no…TOO DARK, not enough privacy to many perverts in world! To me the apartment says ” I’m not looking for anything serious. I’m just here to have a good time.”. And i’m just like the only downside to this place is that its one bedroom instead of two which means I couldn’t make the other bedroom into a library/ study. And the other problem besides my lack of funds is, I really don’t like earthquakes and California is known for them. It would be my luck, I finally find a place I like, can’t afford it, and even if I could; I really don’t like earthquakes So if any of my followers live on the West Coast, preferably in California be honest with me, how is it over there when it comes to forest fires and earthquakes? Lastly, mom looks at me and says “Have you gained weight?” I don’t know what she’s talking about, I’ve been working out, my muscles are killing me! she continues to look me up and down and says “wait, did you boobs grow again!?” Me:well I have been working out it’s possible what you see isn’t fat but rather muscle build up. and she’s like ” Yeah, you don’t look fat, just thick but in the right places…STOP THAT!. you don’t want a muscular body do you?! ” But by then I was like “I’m so OVER this conversation” and I just walked away.