Hello everyone, long time no see. I trust all of you have been well and life has been treating you nicely. I wish I could say the same for me so without any further ado, Let’s jump into the recap. You tell me if I am wrong for feeling short changed.
It started out as Murphy’s Law. Went to update the GPS then the GPS started having problems, had call the tech guy. While he was working on that, I went to work. Came back 4 hours later, packed up the car and as we’re driving mom is like “okay set the GPS to take us to D.C” That annoyed me, who starts driving without setting GPS first, it’s like what were you doing the last 4 hours? Couldn’t set it, so we had to turn the car around and come home and ask my brother to do. Took him 15 minutes to get it (apparently we weren’t the only ones having problems getting it to work.)….then got a little suspenseful the further south we went, the more cops we saw. We went to one bathroom that reminded me of a bathroom from a horror movie, then it got a little confusing. The GPS kept giving us the wrong directions, like it would tell us to turn right (when there was no right turn-if we had made a right we would have went off the side of a cliff. It was like the map was backwards and it kept dying at the most inopportune times after being charged 48 hours. we used the car charger and it still kept cutting off. we did use my phone, but that battery life sucks, the phone was better but my samsung would over heat and die too.-but I was going along with it and having fun We were on the road for about 7 hours. We stopped to get some gas once we got to D.C I got some lottery tickets, there was this woman outside the store trying to bum money off of people. went to the Holiday INN to find out how much their rooms were the lady was like “it’s $239 a night and the only room we have is the King suite (as killed a bug right in front of my mom with some paper looking unfazed. while mom looked freaked out), Next we went over to the Marriott that was right next door, which looked much cleaner inside, and got a double bed room for $189-which would end up being $224.10 when we checked out we had to pay 15 dollars for parking) Now when he aid $189 a night, I asked “Do you know what direction the Motel 8 is?” [I did my research and knew. D.C is overpriced that it’s better to get the hotel in Baltimore and drive 49 miles to D.C] Needless to say, my mother snores like a lawn mower, I kid you not, even here at our house I can hear her through the walls. So imagine me being about 2-3 feet from here having to hear that loudness. I couldn’t sleep, grabbed the sheets off my bed and went to the bathroom tried to sleep on the floor. The floor was cold and the sheets ultra thin, the floor was hard and bathroom had a chlorine like smell (there was chlorine in the water, needless to say, I got a little sick off that.) eventually i left the bathroom went sit on the bed and read the news via smart phone. and watched cops pull cars over left and right. D.C was on high alert there were signs everywhere if you see something say something. The morning of the 24th (my birthday) My migraine was getting worse, but I pushed that aside it was my 27th birthday all I wanted to do was have fun. Went breakfast at the hotel, had this Spanish family eyeing my mother’s purse (She left it in her chair) after the third person literally walk back and just stood there looking at it, I got up and put it in my lap. Told my mom when she sat down with her food. At one point (the same family) brought over eggs for the children, there was this loud “POP” sound as a cloud of yellow solid material flew through the air, the room got silent and then it hit, The kids took the eggs and made a catapult it hit the wall were me and my mom where sitting and landed in her hair. I noticed the look of shock on my mother’s face, I looked over at the kid’s mother’s and she didn’t give a damn, everyone else looked annoyed. Those who got hit were pissed and they gathered up their stuff and moved away. I pulled the egg of my mother’s hair and she’s like “Let’s go, I’ve had enough!” As we’re driving away she’s complaining trying to calm herself down, me I’m looking forward to exploring. we asked several D.C people about parking; but no one seem to know where the parking was. (I think mom took affront to that-as if its some big secret that no one wanted to tell her about.) I said let’s park on the street and pay the meter. We ended up in a garage. 0-1 hour =$11 anything more than an hour $22. and The parking lot guy leaves at 7pm. So we walked around, I was enjoying myself, seeing new things, and watching the people. I found the cops to be fully dressed for battle and little on edge (when you’re a tourist you’re going to look around. But they saw that as suspicious activity and either assumed we either saw something or were going to do something. But I always made it clear I’m here for the Smithsonian, I was all happy and smiles and had my guide book in my hand. And mom kept going on and on about the Hope Diamond. Mom found reasons to complain,”Why is there so much walking!, Why doesn’t anyone know where this diamond is? He’s a cop he should know where everything is! I’m annoyed, why is no one knows were the parking is, all these people and no one knows anything! I’m tired of walking….Didn’t they know I was coming to town, they should have had golf cart waiting for me to take me around! I came all the way down here from New York, the least they could have done was tell me the correct building to find the Hope Diamond in! why are a lot of these buildings closed? Don’t tell me we came during peak season for tourist. You know they really should have separate entrances for field trips, You know this art is really boring…..oh you like sculptors…they’re really not interesting…we can go in if you want to; but they’re really boring they don’t inspire me. You know all this art is fake right? if it was real it would be behind glass like that one painting over there that comes with a security guard.” She sad that while we were in the museum; you could tell the people working there were annoyed with her. I could tell they were thinking “Yeah, the diamond is nice but we DO have other things here that are just as equally inspiring.” Seriously, if i hadn’t left her every time we went into a building, I would never have gotten to see anything. She found faults in everything. I just wanted to scream at her “ITS MY BIRTHDAY, MY DAY, NOT YOURS!”
then about 3-4 hours into my vacation, After our 4th building with the long wait, and the security check point (after being told by an officer the diamond would be in that building) only to get in and go up to the second floor and come across another officer this time a woman (who actually seem to know what she was talking about, she let us know that we were in the wrong building but very close, what we seek was literally right across the street on the second floor. by then moms attitude came out. mom announced because she’s tired and can’t find the hope diamond (we looked through several buildings (i was enjoying the arts and having fun being in a new environment-she kept rushing me about that damn diamond asking every police officer she could about which building it was in-none of them seem to know) Finally she’s like “F-it, we’re leaving and going back to NYS (mind you she told me, before we left the trip that we would come back on Friday (I originally had scheduled Saturday, but then she invited herself and said Saturday wouldn’t work for her. Had I known, that after that 7 hour drive, she was going only give me 3-4 hours to walk around and see the sites I wanted to see and then take me home. I honestly wouldn’t have went on the trip. To me that’s not a vacation that’s a tease. I didn’t even get a gift or a souvenir from D.C, I didn’t get to visit China Town (although there were a lot of Asians everywhere, I didn’t get to try sushi or sake.I didn’t get to see the MLK statue,Einstein, or Lincoln statue or SPY museum and those were the highest things on my to do list. All she went on about was the hope diamond, and how that place had too much walking, how she was from NY and they should have golf carts to take her around, and how it isn’t right that she’s not from there any time she asked someone for directions they had no idea where anything was. You could tell the cops were a little annoyed with her. You could tell they were thinking “This is walking city, people walk here.” As we were driving back she’s like “oh come on, you look like a kid who had to leave the playground before you were ready, D.C wasn’t that great it was a waste of time.” Internally, I was screaming and crying. I really didn’t want to go back to my reality, it wasn’t fair…how could she does this to me. All I wanted was 48 hours away from my reality. Just some time and room to fucking breathe, But no she invited herself; not only to diamond but because she didn’t believe I could do the drive myself. (Which by the way I could have) Here’s the real kicker, on the drive out of D.C she starts pointing out directions to the places I had wanted to see. For example: “You know if we had taken that right and drove for a bit we could have went to see that International Spy Museum you had wanted to see. (She had my guide book earlier so she saw all the things I had highlighted that I really wanted to see and do.At that rate I was like “why are you telling me about stuff I wanted to do that you are clearly not going to let me see.”) it sucked some sites were closed for renovations, that’s why you look at monuments too. I didn’t come all that way just to look at one item.>=( Needless to say, we made it home about an hour ago, I gathered up my GPS’s things (it’s going back to the store for crappy and constantly dying on me despite constant charging! I’m getting my $96 dollars back.) I once again, for the 4th time in a row I bought my own birthday cake, and flowers. You know she had the nerve to say to me “Oh you didn’t make your wish yet?” (When I told her I wanted to stop off at the store for a cake and candles) Due to her snoring throughout the night loudly I couldn’t sleep so 24hours no sleep, massive headache in bright sunny 78 degree weather, at some point during the drive home, to pain got to bad for me and I went unconscious-it was painful during the sight seeing but since it was my birthday I wanted to see everything. My Bday suck, but F*ck it, I’m doing a redo!
Tried to do a Redo-nothing went according to plan. Talked my brother into taking e to a sushi place (we wouldn’t give me the directions and it was agreed upon I was paying)-Not a shocker there. The first day I waited 7 hours for him to get “ready” by 8:30 pm I was like Fuck it, I’m not going. and I told my brother, forget sushi it’s fine, I’ll just take myself to the movies (there’s a Thai sushi place right across the street from the movie so I figured “why do I have to wait for someone else on my birthday redo. No, Fuck this shit, i’m going on my own. Then surprisingly the next day he’s like “Okay, I’ll go now. So we went, the decor was really dark inside and I didn’t care for the music. The food was good, The soy sauce way to SALTY. Sake taste like water down vodka to me, so I ordered a coke and made a cocktail and then it was on the money. If you haven’t had it before I highly suggest ordering sake with some type of non-alcoholic drink and making a cocktail. – You can thank me later.
The next day I got up early and went to PetSmart to get me a pet. I really wanted a black cat (I’ve had other colors but not black) I spoke with my neighbor who only gets black cats and he let me know were he goes and the price range. Over here’s about $80-100 for a cat, that includes updated shots, micro-chipped in case they are lost and one month free of pet insurance. Also depending on their age it can also include a voucher to get them spayed or neuter. To me that’s a deal. I went to the store to buy me a kitten, I watched them for awhile and settled on one I connected with. I filled out the paper. But because I live with mom even at the age of 27 I had to get her permission. Needless to say, mom asked that question “How much Does it cost” -mind you she wasn’t paying for it. I told her the price and she said “no” “that’s too expensive, that’s a waste of money, why do you want a pet?!” me: “Because I need this.” Her: no it’s a waste of money, that’s money better spent on buying food for the family. It sucks that at 27 that i would even need her permission at all for anything I want especially if i’m paying for it. but why am I not shocked. once again she walked all over my feelings/needs. if it’s not what she wants then it must not be what I want. When she told me no, all I could think was “this is the reason why I stay quiet, no one in this family listens to me. Once again, the proof is in the pudding, what I want, and feel doesn’t matter. If it’s not what she wants, then it doesn’t matter if it’s important to me or not.” I came home to her giving me a smug look, as if she had won some great battle. The only thing she managed to do was walk all over me gain.
I’m actually a very lonely person, I try to find happiness in the small day to day routines. These last couple of years have truly sucked for me. It took a lot of guts and time to go out and try to get a new cat. I waited a few year because I was grieving over the loss of my last cat. I suppose I could try to forgive her ignorance towards me. She doesn’t know I’m depressed. ( Although I find that to be shocking, my brother has been depressed for over 20 years. You’d think she’d recognized the signs when they are clear as day. I tried telling my brother I was depressed, he rebuffed me. “No, I’M DEPRESSED, I TAKE PRESCRIBED MEDICATION! You….you’re just sad.” To which I reminded him, not everyone shows the same symptoms when dealing with mental illness. As mom said “Parents know when something isn’t quite right with their children when it comes to mental illness, its just that some choose not to accept it.” So instead they’ll give me occasional looks of concern. Any who , my brother did say he would look into “finding me a free flea ridden kitten.” But on one seem to grasp the the cold hard fact. Money was never an issue for me. I know what it takes to take care of a pet. I had no problems or qualms paying the fee. What I have an issue with: lack of boundaries, at my age NO ONE should be telling me what I can, or how I can spend my hard earned money. The issue isn’t about the cat -although that does piss me off. It’s about control, specifically trying to control someone elses money. Just like with that trip, she didn’t care about how much it meant for me to go on my own-she saw how excited I was to get the hell away from here, she saw it as an opportunity to control the situation. Her car her rules. She knew if I had rented a car like I wanted to, picked the hotel like I wanted too we would not have left when she wanted to. When she had mentioned she was tired, I would have said “okay” took her back to the hotel and I would have came back and continued to explore and had a great time. If we had stuck to my plan. Not this bogus, we’re gonna be on the road for 7 hours. I’ll give 3 hours (I checked the parking ticket) to walk around- Well I’m not having fun, so we’re going to end your birthday/vacation sooner.
My vacation/ birthday was ruined.